"Reflecting and archiving is not the same as dwelling in the past. It is not anti-living, but a part of life, even a crucial one. We do this to highlight one thing above others, so that a special moment can take up more space in our brains than an inconsequential one; so that, by plain math, our personal worlds contain more good things and fewer bad ones. Or more interesting things and fewer blah ones, since you have to record the bad, too."
-Tavi Gevinson, from Rookie’s Editor’s Letter this month.
My grandfather died last month. This summer, he told my mom how he wanted to be buried. My mom says he said:
"Now you don’t you dare bury me in a suit. I want you to go out and get me a fresh pair of bib overalls and a white Hanes V-Neck. Wash them a couple times so they aren’t crunchy. I want three cigars in my breast pocket, and my glasses, and my checkbook. And a pen."